The PSA Consistency Circle: How Predictable Days Slash Anxiety and Spark Cooperation
- drbobcarey
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Parents often ask me a simple question:“Why does my child fall apart the moment things don’t go as planned?”
The truth is not simple, but the solution can be.
Children thrive when life feels predictable. When the rules shift, routines wobble, or adults respond differently from one moment to the next, anxiety jumps and behaviour follows. In the Positive Systems Approach (PSA), consistency is more than a parenting technique. It’s the engine that makes every other strategy work.
And in Chapter 8 of my book, something important becomes clear. Long-term behaviour change happens when consistency becomes a loop, not a checklist: structure builds trust, trust increases cooperation, cooperation reduces stress, and reduced stress makes consistency even easier to keep.
Today, we’re turning that loop into something visual.
Introducing the PSA Consistency Circle
Imagine a simple circle divided into four parts. Each part feeds the next, and by the time you reach the top again, everything feels calmer, clearer, and easier.
Here’s how the loop works:
1. Predictable Structure
This is your foundation. Clear routines, simple expectations, and consistent responses lower uncertainty. Kids know what happens when, and what adults will do when things get bumpy. Predictable structure reduces the background noise that drives anxiety. It keeps the day from feeling like a test the child might fail.
2. Safety and Trust
When life is predictable, children stop scanning for danger. They don’t need to test boundaries to see if they’ll hold. They don’t brace for sudden changes in tone or rules. They feel safe enough to try, fail, ask for help, and try again. In PSA, trust isn’t a warm-and-fuzzy extra. It’s a behavioural engine.
3. Increased Cooperation and Skill Use
With trust comes cooperation. Children attempt coping skills they’ve been taught. They communicate instead of melting down. They tolerate frustration for longer. They manage transitions with fewer battles. This is where you start to see “real change”—not because the child suddenly matured, but because the environment finally matched their developmental needs.
4. Reduced Anxiety and Smoother Days
Cooperation leads to calmer days. Calmer days make it easier for adults to stay consistent. With less stress and fewer surprises, everyone—parents, teachers, caregivers—can hold the line together. And now you're back at the top of the circle.
Consistency → Safety → Cooperation → Calm → More consistency.
It’s a self-reinforcing loop. Once it starts spinning, everything gets lighter.
Why This Circle Works (The PSA Science Behind It)
Chapter 8 explains long-term change through two concepts:
GeneralizationChildren should be able to use skills not just in one room with one adult, but across settings, people, and situations.
MaintenanceThose skills need to hold long after direct intervention fades.
The Consistency Circle supports both:
Structure reduces cognitive load, making skills easier to access.
Trust increases a child’s willingness to try new strategies.
Cooperation creates more opportunities to practice skills in natural environments.
Calmer days make consistency easier across home, school, and community, improving portability.
This is why PSA treats consistency as a system factor, not a short-term parenting tactic. It’s how you build change that sticks.
Turning the Circle Into Daily Life: Visual Schedules for Busy Families
Parents don’t need complicated behaviour plans. They need tools that actually fit inside real mornings and real evenings. The following visual schedules are designed for quick customization and are based on the successful PSA elements used across home and school plans.
Feel free to copy/paste, print, or adapt these. Click the links below to download the pdf and/or Word version (for editing).
How to Keep the PSA Consistency Circle Spinning
These tips pull directly from the System Factors in the book: “What if it’s Not Just The Behaviour”?
Keep scripts simple.Use the same neutral phrases for instructions or redirection.
Share your plan.Anyone who interacts with your child should know the basic schedule and responses. This boosts portability.
Expect setbacks.They’re part of the learning curve. The circle continues even when a day collapses.
Review weekly.What worked? What didn’t? Adjust one thing at a time.
Celebrate the little wins.Every sign of cooperation is a sign of growing trust.
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